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Radiant Intimacy

A Modern-Day Crucible for Healing, Awakening, and Celebrating Life

May 24th – 27th, 2019

1440 Multiversity, 800 Bethany Drive
Scotts Valley, CA 95066

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A retreat with Helen Fisher, Terry Real, Celeste Hirschman, Dimitry Yakoushkin, Michaela Boehm, Steve James, Diane Poole Heller, and other teachers, leading scientists, and artists.
Facilitated by Zaya and Maurizio Benazzo.

We all long for love. We long to be intimately connected to ourselves and others. For some, a partnership or marriage is the natural outcome of this longing. Others find alternative styles of intimacy more fulfilling. For most of us, love and sexuality can be complex and confusing. 

We live in a dynamic time of transition with post patriarchy relationships, gender equality, new femininity and masculinity, modern parenting and modern sexual dynamics.

Radiant intimacy is an emerging field of exploration bringing awareness to the topics of relationships, sexuality, and love while drawing from psychology, trauma theory, modern evolutionary biology and science sex research. By bringing together practitioners from a multiplicity of backgrounds and disciplines, we will give you tools to navigate the complexities of modern day relating and expand your experience of intimacy.

Through carefully crafted exercises, keynote lectures, targeted workshops, potent meditations, and performances, you will engage the concept of radiant intimacy, and how to express and integrate it within a spiritual path. You will also explore:

  • Attachment styles and their effects on relationships
  • Shadow elements within a relationship, and how early developmental trauma can impact our capacity for relating
  • How sexuality and sexual energy—an essential life force—can open us to the experience of our true nature and the unity consciousness
  • The evolution and future of human sexuality, love, and relationships
  • Transparent communication skills.

See Radiant Intimacy Program

Why Attend?

  • Explore radiant intimacy through the lenses of neuroscience, integral psychotherapy, and attachment theory.
  • Get a taste of expanded aliveness and intimate attunement through a rich selection of workshops, experiential activities, and performances with leading educators, scientists, and artists.
  • Explore ways to break outdated paradigms for relationships and sexuality—create relationships that are more aligned with who you are and with your deepest desires.

Prerequisites:

None required

Experience Level:

None required

Our home for the retreat will be the 1440  located in the beautiful redwoods near Santa Cruz, CA https://1440.org/

Tuition: $525.
Accommodations must be reserved with 1440 Multiversity for the duration of the event and prices vary depending on availability ($329 – $669 per night).

Workshop facilitators

Helen Fisher – Neuroscientist and Anthropologist
Internationally-renowned neuroscientist and biological anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher is a pioneer in the biology of human personality and the neurochemistry of leadership. Named a TED All-Star and one of “the 15 most amazing women in science today” by Business Insider, Dr. Fisher has given the world a new way to look at relationships and “corporate chemistry.” Her groundbreaking research has shown how understanding the biology behind personality styles can be used to build teams and corporate boards, advertise, innovate, and succeed at work.
The Chief Scientific Advisor for Match.com, Dr. Fisher has developed The Fisher Temperament Inventory. Taken by over 14 million people in 40 countries, the Inventory is the first and only personality questionnaire built from and validated by neuroscience (using fMRI brain scanning data). Her discovery of the four basic biological styles of thinking and behaving — Explorer, Builder, Director, and Negotiator — represents the biggest leap in personality tools in the last 100 years.
A Senior Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and an Anthropologist at Rutgers University, Dr. Fisher is the most referenced scholar in the field of love and relationships in the world today. A documentary film based on her work, Sleepless in New York, premiered in April 2014. She has written five bestsellers on the neuroscience behind human social behavior, including Why Him? Why Her? and the 1994 classic Anatomy of Love, which was released in a second edition in February 2016.
In addition to appearing on 20/20 and The Colbert Report, her articles have appeared in The Huffington Post, Frontiers in Psychology, and Newsweek, where she examined the leadership styles of Presidential nominees.

Terry Real is a nationally recognized family therapist, author, and teacher.  He is particularly known for his groundbreaking work on men and male psychology as well as his work on gender and couples; he has been in private practice for over twenty-five years. Terry has appeared often as the relationship expert for Good Morning America and ABC News. His work has been featured in numerous academic articles as well as media venues such as Oprah, 20/20, The Today Show, CNN, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today and many others. 

In 1997 he published the national bestseller: I Don’t Want To Talk About It, the first book ever written on the topic of male depression. That was followed by How Can I Get Through To You? an exploration of the role of patriarchy in relationships and most recently, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work, a practical guide for couples and couples therapists. 

Terry founded The Relational Life Institute, in Arlington, Massachusetts, dedicated to working with the general population to help women reclaim their voices and men open their hearts. The Institute offers a training program for therapists as well as workshops and trainings throughout the US and Canada. 

For more information on his work, please visit his website, www.terryreal.com.


Celeste Hirschman received her Master’s Degree in Human Sexuality Studies from San Francisco State University and her Bachelor’s Degree in Women’s Studies at the University of California at Santa Cruz (UCSC). At UCSC she was a Teaching Assistant as well as a Dean’s and Chancellor’s Award recipient for her thesis. She taught as a lecturer at San Francisco State University (SFSU) in the Human Sexuality Studies Department and was a Research Assistant and Project Manager at the SFSU’s Center for Research on Gender and Sexuality, where she published numerous articles on adolescent sexuality development. She was also an Assistant Professor at the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where she taught the Sexological Bodywork Training and Certification Program. She is the the Co-creator of the Somatica Method ® and is the Co-Founder and Lead Instructor at the Somatica Institute. She also has her own private practice where she sees clients in her San Francisco office. She is the co-author of two books – Making Love Real and Cockfidence.


Dimitry Yakoushkin is a Sex and Relationship Coach and a Certified Somatic Practitioner since early 2010. He is an Instructor in the Somatica method and holds a Sexological Bodywork certificate from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality in San Francisco. Dimitry is also trained in the Hakomi Method – a body-based, experiential therapy method that helps clients get in touch with and live from their deepest self. Prior to his entering into sex and relationship coaching, Dimitry worked for over ten years as a counselor and tutor to high school and college students in both academics and life skills. Dimitry’s professional track and field career has given him fantastic embodied awareness, and his warm, patient approach creates an atmosphere of safety and acceptance where women, men, and couples can explore their desires, heal from trauma, share passion and experience profound transformation.


img-Michaela-BoehmMichaela Boehm is a lineage holder in Kashmiri Shaivism Tantra having received a classical tantric education from a young age. Born and raised in Austria, Michaela also has an extensive background in Jungian and Forensic Psychology, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Trauma Therapy and Hypnosis as well as numerous somatic modalities. Upon moving to the United States in 1994, Michaela established a 24-year counseling practice logging over 40,000 client hours. Included in her clinical experience are 4 years as a counselor and treatment plan developer of a Malibu celebrity drug rehabilitation center, subsequently consulting other facilities on wholistic treatment plans. Michaela is the founder of The Non-Linear Movement Method®, a somatic movement modality which facilitates stress and trauma release and is now taught internationally through authorized teachers. In addition to over twenty years of extensive academic and clinical background in psychology and counseling, Michaela traveled and taught with David Deida for 13 years. She teaches internationally and has developed a women’s curriculum for feminine embodiment as well as teaching couples and men about the principles of intimacy and polarity. Her book ‘The Wild Woman’s Way’ will be published in June 2018 by Enliven/Atria, an imprint of Simon and Schuster. Michaela’s current private clients include Oscar-winning actors, producers, writers, multiple Grammy-winning musicians and several family offices, which she consults on second generation wealth issues. www.michaelaboehm.com


Steve-James-Speaker Steve James travels internationally teaching somatic practices, meditation, yoga, as well as leading explorations in contemplative, mystic, and relational realms. Known for his intelligent, grounded approach and his dedication to first-hand research he has extensive experience in elite athletic performance, contemplative and spiritual disciplines, the arts, extreme outdoor survival, and human behaviour. In addition to private client work and international public workshops, Steve has released a DVD series of his movement approach called the Movement Koan® Method, a fusion of joint-nourishing movement and body-based mindfulness. Steve’s current private clients range from pioneering entrepreneur CEO’s and multi-billion dollar fund managers to multiple Grammy-winning musical artists and Oscar-winning actors. www.guruviking.com


Diane Poole Heller, Ph.D., is an established expert in the field of Adult Attachment Theory, Trauma Resolution, and integrative healing techniques. She is a renowned trainer, presenter, and speaker offering many workshops, webinars and educational materials on Trauma and Attachment emphasizing their effects on childhood and adult relationships. Diane has created the Dynamic Attachment Re-Patterning experience and the DARe to CONNECT series on Healing Early Childhood and Adult Attachment Wounds. With refreshing clarity and humor, she has lectured and taught professionals internationally as a Somatic Experiencing® Senior Faculty member and a Somatic Attachment Educator. She has also created very popular interactive online Attachment Mastery Programs and the ongoing Therapy Mastermind Group.


Radiant Intimacy Program

May 24

2:15 pm Check-in begins. Rooms ready by 4:00 pm
4:45 pm – 5:45 pm Supplementary Classes: Yoga, Tai Chi, Qigong, or Meditation
5:30 pm – 7:00 pm Dinner
6:45 pm – 7:15 pm Guest Welcome Session
Opening Program
7:30 pm – 8:00 pm

Maurizio & Zaya - Opening and introduction of presenters.

Evening Session
8:00 pm – 9:00 pm

The Drive to Love: Romance in the Digital Age with Helen Fisher

Room 101
"Is technology changing love? Is monogamy natural? Why do you fall in love with one person rather than another? How can you use neuroscience to keep love alive? And where are we headed in our digital age.

Anthropologist and neuroscientist Dr. Helen Fisher uses her brain scanning work (fMRI) to discuss three brain systems that evolved for mating and reproduction–the sex drive; romantic love; and attachment; and maintains that these basic mating instincts will not alter due to Internet dating. But the Internet is changing how we court and who we choose. Hooking up? Friends with Benefits? Polyamory?

Fisher then uses her data on 35,000 single Americans to explain modern dating tactics—from Millennials to Seniors—and the newest trend in courtship, what she calls “slow love.” She also proposes that humanity has evolved four broad basic styles of thinking and behaving which draw us naturally toward one person rather than another—in love and business. And she discusses the biological underpinnings of love at first sight, love addiction, adultery and divorce. Last she shows some of the brain circuitry of long-term romantic happiness and explains how to use neuroscience to keep love alive."

9:00 pm - 9:30 pm

Room 101
Q&A with Helen Fisher

May 25

6:45 am – 7:45 am Supplementary Classes: Yoga, Tai Chi, Qigong, or Meditation
7:00 am – 9:00 am Breakfast
Morning Sessions
9:00 am - 10:25 pm Enhancing Spiritual Maturation by Healing Early Attachment Wounds and Embracing Secure Relationships with Diane Heller

Sanctuary Room
Understanding and releasing childhood attachment ruptures by learning secure attachment skills is key to enjoying more fulfilling relationships and healthy intimacy as an adult. This workshop will include an overview of attachment adaptations including secure, avoidant, and ambivalent, as well as how each style impacts adult relationships. From a spiritual perspective, healing insecure attachment helps us have more awareness to support ego dis-identification and essential maturation.

Learning objectives:
  • The participant will be able to identify and describe secure attachment
  • The participant will be able to identify and distinguish avoidant and ambivalent attachment.
  • The participant will understand how to create corrective experiences to facilitate healing.
  • The participant will understand the challenges of dissociation as well as embodiment related to resolving relational trauma issues

10:30 am – 11:50 am

Men & Women In Love: The Future of Romance with Terry Real

Sanctuary Room
We have never wanted more from our long term relationships. We want to be lifelong lovers. But do we act like lovers with one another? What gets in the way? Over time many of us stop telling our whole truth to our partners, because it doesn’t go well when we try, and the first casualty of backing off is our passion. The reclaiming of women’s “voices” has been an issue for decades. But men in relationship rarely articulate their emotions or deepest needs either.

Learn the art of standing up for yourself with love - asserting yourself and cherishing your partner in the same breath. And then learn how to listen and respond with a generous heart, so that you deal well with conflicts as they arise and keep things between you honest and alive.

12:00 pm -12:15pm

Introduction of afternoon program with Terry Real and Michaela Boehm

Sanctuary Room
Preparing folks for the afternoon sessions

11:30 am - 1:30pmLunch
Afternoon Concurrent Sessions
2:00 pm - 5:00 pm

The Wild Woman’s Way: The Embodied Feminine: Michaela Boehm with women

Sanctuary Room
Join us for an interactive exploration into full-bodied expression of your original, deeply connected feminine nature. “The Wild Woman’s Way®” is Michaela’s body of work and this session is an invitation to find and unfold the parts of you that are deeply connected to nature. Deepen into who you are as a woman by releasing layers of societal conditioning, belief, and habit and learn to listen to your bodily genius.

2:00 pm - 5:00 pm

The Masculine Dilemma: Our Next Frontier: Terry Real with men

Room 201
Never before have we men been awash with so many confusing messages:

“Be sensitive. Be strong. Just listen to me. Tell me about your feelings. Throw me against a wall and just do me! Be gentle. Be in control. Act like a man! Don’t act like a man! Just be yourself!” Conservatives reassert old mores, some progressives speak like they want to throw the whole thing out. But it’s up to each of us to look at the legacy we’ve been handed, figuring out what to kill; what to keep, and what to pass on to our kids.

What is the legacy that was handed to you? How was it transmitted? Through exercise and discussion we will look at ourselves as men - we will look at the messages given from our fathers in particular but also our mothers and the culture.

We will explore what it means to live whole, relational lives.

4:45 pm - 5:45 pmSupplementary Classes: Yoga, Tai Chi, Qigong, or Meditation
5:30 pm – 7:00 pm Dinner
Evening Session
7:30 pm – 9:30 pm

Whole group integration with Terry Real & Michaela Boehm

Sanctuary Room

May 26

6:45 am – 7:45 am Supplementary Classes: Yoga, Tai Chi, Qigong, or Meditation
7:00 am – 9:00 am Breakfast
Morning Concurrent Sessions
9:00 am - 12:00 pm

Radical Intimacy And The Play Of The Erotic with Michaela Boehm & Steve James

Sanctuary Room
Whether you would like to start a new intimate relationship or want to deepen passion with your partner, the principles of Intimacy and Erotic Friction — the spark that keeps passion alive — are always available to deepen your experience. The erotic play of masculine and feminine, springing from a radical intimacy with life itself, is a challenging and delightful realm of inquiry. We will explore the deep principles of embodiment, uncover and work with personal blocks to expansion and contraction, engage in practical exercises, dialogue, and learning to widen both heart space and the ability to embody as energy or thrust. In this experiential session you will be shown the building blocks, practices, and disciplines of creating deeper relational and erotic connections in your life.

9:00 am - 12:00 pm

Deepen Intimacy Through Erotic Embodiment and Emotional Vulnerability with Celeste Hirschman & Dimitry Yakoushkin

Room 201
In order to have deep intimacy with another person you need two core skills - erotic embodiment and emotional vulnerability. The more you can show up in your erotic body in the present moment, the more you can understand your feelings, boundaries, desires, and capacities. The more you are able to share vulnerably, the more acceptance and empathy you can feel from your partner. In this 3-hour workshop we will take you on a journey into deep erotic embodiment and vulnerable sharing to enhance your pleasure, joy and connection with those around you.

11:30 am – 1:30 pm Lunch
Afternoon Concurrent Sessions
2:00 pm - 5:00 pm

Ecstasy & Mystery with Michaela Boehm & Steve James

Sanctuary Room
Join us for an immersion into the tantric subtle body arts. Experience ecstatic intimacy and explore the sacred mysteries of erotic friction. In this experiential session we will engage in specific transmission oriented around subtle body practice and the realms of sacred union.

We'll first engage in a series of practices to sensitize and open both body and heart, resulting in greater feeling capacity and sensitivity towards yourself and others. Once the body and heart are sufficiently relaxed and sensitized, we will dive into the mysteries of erotic friction by engaging with the full spectrum of energetic offerings and touch, from the sublime light to the mysterious dark. In this session you will engage with practices and disciplines of creating ecstatic play in all aspects of your life. Using cutting edge explorations & new practices, we will be inviting not just understanding of these principles, but true embodiment of them.

2:00 pm - 5:00 pm

The Art of Giving and Receiving Sensual Consent with Celeste Hirschman & Dimitry Yakoushkin

Room 201
Consent is a very important topic that has come to the forefront recently. While it may seem straightforward, truly understanding, giving, and gaining consent is actually quite complex. What’s more, it can be done very clumsily or very sensually depending on your awareness and skill level. In this 3-hour workshop, we will introduce the foundational skills you need to have in order to give and receive true consent in a connected and arousing way

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4:45 pm - 5:45 pm Supplementary Classes: Yoga, Tai Chi, Qigong, or Meditation
5:30 – 7:00 pm Dinner
Evening Session & Dance
8:00 pm – 10:00 pm

Dance

Sanctuary Room

May 27

6:45 am – 7:45 am Supplementary Classes: Yoga, Tai Chi, Qigong, or Meditation
7:00 am – 9:00 am Breakfast
Morning Session
9:00 am - 12:00 pm

Q&A with Michaela Boehm, Steve James, Celeste & Dimitri and group sharing time .

Room 101
Closing experiential session and conversation with presenters & attendees

12:00 noon Check-out time
11:30 am – 1:00 pm Lunch (Included on day of departure)

* 1440 Supplemental Option Classes include: yoga, meditation, nature walks, Qi gong & Tai Chi

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